I don't know about you, but I've been seeing a lot of conversations about how to blog. The general theme is one I think we all know: blog what you want, how you want, when you want, but there are a few fundamental rules. Don't tag authors in bad reviews. Don't insult people. Don't beg for ARCs on Twitter, etc, etc. And of course I agree with these. (I would also like to add: stop telling people they're ridiculous for not wanting to read a book for some reason or another that you deem ridiculous. Just let people read whatever the hell they want or don't want.) I see people constantly trying to make others feel guilty for having ARCs, constantly tagging authors and publishers about how badly they want them. And that's bad. We know that's bad. I see it and basically turn into this.
But I think we need to remember something. Some people are new. It's one thing to see an adult who you know has been blogging for years doing these things. But there are 14 year olds who are very new, and I don't see enough people considering that. I've seen people I follow ridicule young girls for making mistakes. And I get it - there are some very mature 14 year olds in the blogging world. A lot of them. And you probably think everyone should be like that.
But I started blogging when I was 14, and you know what? I made a lot of mistakes. Some of which I remember too vividly for my own good. I tweeted authors 3 star reviews, which I would NEVER do now. I probably embarrassed myself in tweets to authors and publishers more times than I even want to imagine. I was definitely a little over obsessed with ARCs. I cringe whenever I think about it. But the thing is, I learned. I watched others, yes, but really I think it just came as I grew up and realized that wasn't how you talk to people, especially not to professionals. I was not fortunate enough to be all refined and sophisticated at 14. I can definitely say I'm amazed by the maturity of a lot of the younger bloggers I see.
But I know we all see a LOT of stuff on Twitter that probably isn't appropriate. I just think that before judging, we should ask ourselves: how new is this person? How young? And obviously there's a difference between tagging authors in horrible reviews/tagging them in hate and what I'm talking about. But is it just me? Or do you think it's important to consider this too?
(In retrospect I realize this post doesn't adequately get my point across or EVEN HAVE A POINT but it's too late now.)