Love Triangles and Why I Hate Them

11.12.2011
People continuously ask me why I hate love triangles so much, so I figured it was time I tell you.

I know that some people really like love triangles. I respect that. Obviously, a lot of people really like love triangles since they seem to be so popular. You like them, that's fine. I have no problems with it. But I think I'm always going to hate them.

For one thing, (and this is the totally obvious one) THEY ARE EVERYWHERE. Obviously, there are plenty of books without love triangles. But the majority of YA novels that I happen to come across - say, at my bookstore or when I'm lurking on Goodreads - seem to have love triangles. And I'm sick of it. Maybe I'm just awful at discovering good books. But you have to admit that love triangles are plentiful these days. And yeah, okay, lots of stuff is overdone, and I still love it. But love triangles are almost always the same. No twists. (How would you even put a twist on a love triangle, anyway? O_o It's fairly straight-forward. Girl loves Boy 1. Girl also loves Boy 2. Both Boy 1 and Boy 2 love Girl. Girl cannot choose between Boy 1 and Boy 2.)

Not every teenager girl has two guys she's completely and utterly in love with. Not every teenage girl has two guys that are totally in love with her. I don't think I have ever come across that in real life. That's not to say it doesn't happen, because I'm sure it does, but not nearly as much as books seem to make us believe. It's just so unrealistic.

And another reason? Rarely does the character ever end up with who I like. And okay, maybe to some of you that seems like a stupid reason, and maybe I'm a little bitter, but it's the truth. In fact, I think Suzanne Collin's The Hunger Games series was the only love triangle where the character ended up with who I wanted, and let's face it, I hated Katniss anyway. If you ask me, the character usually chooses the worst option.

Another thing is that 90% of the time, they just feel so pointless. They don't add anything to the plot other than a ridiculous amount of angst. And if a girl is going to rely on which guy she loves to choose between good and evil or something, then . . . Stop being such a wussy.

And not only do they feel pointless and plotless to me, I feel like they take up too much of the plot. Love triangles are being constantly focused on. There are so many interesting things - that have nothing to do with a love triangle - that could be put in the place of all this constant focusing on the love triangle. Just take the Twilight series, for instance. Instead of spending all her time thinking about  Edward or Jacob, she could have done something . . . well, interesting. Because interesting is pretty much the opposite of Bella. Obviously, there are exceptions to this. Some books have love triangles that balance well with the plot. But I haven't found very many, and until I do, this is going to stay a reason to hate love triangles for me.

And then there's the fact that all the love triangles are one girl in love with two guys. I know there has to be some where there's just one guy and two girls, but I have not come across any. I kind of want to D:

I'm not going to say that if an author writes a love triangle into their book that they're awful writers. There are even some love triangles I've enjoyed. But I just don't see the point in them anymore. They're frustrating and overused and boring. To me. I didn't say they have to be that way to you. I'm more of a fan of the love line with a few bumps - like the Mythos Academy series by Jennifer Estep and the Darkest Powers series by Kelley Armstrong. Those relationships where there might be another guy or girl involved, but you totally know it won't stay that way.

Believe me when I say that I have way more reasons than these for hating love triangles. But those are not reasons are not for anyone else to know, because they're all rather rude and involve some bashing. So. >_>

~Zoey~
12 comments on "Love Triangles and Why I Hate Them"
  1. I hear you. While I'm not to the level of hatred that you're at...they piss me off too. The only time it was ever actually done well in my opinion was Vampire Academy. But since you refuse to read those too >.>

    As for books that have one guy and two girls... um, ANNA? You loved ANNA as much as I did, right? It's funny... I feel like I'm always so much more sympathetic toward guys in general. Like, St. Clair didn't bother me at all. I LOVED him.

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  2. I guess for me it depends on if the love triangle is good or not.

    If the love triangle isn't moving the story anywhere or if it's wasting a few good pages of a novel, I won't like the book. But once and awhile I stumble upon a good book with a love triangle that actually amps up the tension of the story. There are some stories where love triangles actually improve the novel.

    Am I crazy for thinking that...? Maybe you don't understand what I'm talking about...

    Oh yes, and Peeta is way better than Gale. Sorry to say, but I hated Gale.

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  3. Marisa: That's not really what I count as a love triangle, though. You always know he's going to end up with Anna xD I can only consider it a love triangle when you don't know who they're going to end up with. AND YES, I DID LOVE IT.

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  4. Megan: No, I totally get what you're saying. I agree with that, I just haven't found very many of those books. Or maybe I have and I just didn't consider it a good one :P

    Lol. I was okay with Gale, I liked Peeta, and I hated Katniss xD But if she had ended up with Gale, I would have been like . . . Whut? O_o Screw you, Collins.

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  5. So far they haven't annoyed me too much. But I totally agree with you that they are becoming way too overdone. I actually think it is more common to have one in a novel that has a romantic element than not. I can think of a couple of times that they were pretty well done, but honestly when I think back to my favorite books, none of them involved a triangle.

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  6. Yeah, I totally understand. I prefer not to have a love triangle. The only time I like a love triangle is when there is some kind of growth in the person, to where they learn and understand that one type of person isn't good for them. Like, what they thought they wanted was not what was best for them. I don't find many of those though.

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  7. Zoey--

    I actually kind of liked Katniss. I think it was very brave of her to take Prim's place, but I thought it was wrong of her to use Peeta as a source of survival.

    And I totally predicted Peeta and Katniss falling in love for REAL. Totally called that one, bud-day. :)

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  8. AGREED. And badly-written love triangles just gag me. It never happens in real life anyway (not to many teenagers at least).

    New follower :).

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  9. '''Yeah, I totally understand. I prefer not to have a love triangle. The only time I like a love triangle is when there is some kind of growth in the person, to where they learn and understand that one type of person isn't good for them. Like, what they thought they wanted was not what was best for them. I don't find many of those though''''

    same here

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  10. You should read How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr. Best handled "love triangle" I've ever seen. Although by your definition, it's not even a love triangle, because you know who she's going to end up with. But it's only a really small part of the plot and there's NO DRAMA involved in it, which made me go SQUEEEEEEE.

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  11. I agree with you! I'm sick of love triangles & lately I've been skipping a book when I'll read that there's a love triangle in it. Also, a while ago, I was thinking the same thing: Why there isn't a guy with 2 girls? ;) So, I hear ya...

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  12. ugh... love triangles are bad! You start loving this couple and then BOOM! Some random dude or chick comes in and screws the mojo up!
    Take the House of Night series, for example. When she cheats on Erik because of that one porfessor dude? I forget his name... then Erik and Stark. Was so in love with the Zoey/Erik couple and then the authors ruined it by making Erik a dush and making her be with stark.
    i dont like reading them, and I dont like writing them.
    P.s: pardon my spelling and capitalization errors.

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11.12.2011

Love Triangles and Why I Hate Them

People continuously ask me why I hate love triangles so much, so I figured it was time I tell you.

I know that some people really like love triangles. I respect that. Obviously, a lot of people really like love triangles since they seem to be so popular. You like them, that's fine. I have no problems with it. But I think I'm always going to hate them.

For one thing, (and this is the totally obvious one) THEY ARE EVERYWHERE. Obviously, there are plenty of books without love triangles. But the majority of YA novels that I happen to come across - say, at my bookstore or when I'm lurking on Goodreads - seem to have love triangles. And I'm sick of it. Maybe I'm just awful at discovering good books. But you have to admit that love triangles are plentiful these days. And yeah, okay, lots of stuff is overdone, and I still love it. But love triangles are almost always the same. No twists. (How would you even put a twist on a love triangle, anyway? O_o It's fairly straight-forward. Girl loves Boy 1. Girl also loves Boy 2. Both Boy 1 and Boy 2 love Girl. Girl cannot choose between Boy 1 and Boy 2.)

Not every teenager girl has two guys she's completely and utterly in love with. Not every teenage girl has two guys that are totally in love with her. I don't think I have ever come across that in real life. That's not to say it doesn't happen, because I'm sure it does, but not nearly as much as books seem to make us believe. It's just so unrealistic.

And another reason? Rarely does the character ever end up with who I like. And okay, maybe to some of you that seems like a stupid reason, and maybe I'm a little bitter, but it's the truth. In fact, I think Suzanne Collin's The Hunger Games series was the only love triangle where the character ended up with who I wanted, and let's face it, I hated Katniss anyway. If you ask me, the character usually chooses the worst option.

Another thing is that 90% of the time, they just feel so pointless. They don't add anything to the plot other than a ridiculous amount of angst. And if a girl is going to rely on which guy she loves to choose between good and evil or something, then . . . Stop being such a wussy.

And not only do they feel pointless and plotless to me, I feel like they take up too much of the plot. Love triangles are being constantly focused on. There are so many interesting things - that have nothing to do with a love triangle - that could be put in the place of all this constant focusing on the love triangle. Just take the Twilight series, for instance. Instead of spending all her time thinking about  Edward or Jacob, she could have done something . . . well, interesting. Because interesting is pretty much the opposite of Bella. Obviously, there are exceptions to this. Some books have love triangles that balance well with the plot. But I haven't found very many, and until I do, this is going to stay a reason to hate love triangles for me.

And then there's the fact that all the love triangles are one girl in love with two guys. I know there has to be some where there's just one guy and two girls, but I have not come across any. I kind of want to D:

I'm not going to say that if an author writes a love triangle into their book that they're awful writers. There are even some love triangles I've enjoyed. But I just don't see the point in them anymore. They're frustrating and overused and boring. To me. I didn't say they have to be that way to you. I'm more of a fan of the love line with a few bumps - like the Mythos Academy series by Jennifer Estep and the Darkest Powers series by Kelley Armstrong. Those relationships where there might be another guy or girl involved, but you totally know it won't stay that way.

Believe me when I say that I have way more reasons than these for hating love triangles. But those are not reasons are not for anyone else to know, because they're all rather rude and involve some bashing. So. >_>

~Zoey~

12 comments:

  1. I hear you. While I'm not to the level of hatred that you're at...they piss me off too. The only time it was ever actually done well in my opinion was Vampire Academy. But since you refuse to read those too >.>

    As for books that have one guy and two girls... um, ANNA? You loved ANNA as much as I did, right? It's funny... I feel like I'm always so much more sympathetic toward guys in general. Like, St. Clair didn't bother me at all. I LOVED him.

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  2. I guess for me it depends on if the love triangle is good or not.

    If the love triangle isn't moving the story anywhere or if it's wasting a few good pages of a novel, I won't like the book. But once and awhile I stumble upon a good book with a love triangle that actually amps up the tension of the story. There are some stories where love triangles actually improve the novel.

    Am I crazy for thinking that...? Maybe you don't understand what I'm talking about...

    Oh yes, and Peeta is way better than Gale. Sorry to say, but I hated Gale.

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  3. Marisa: That's not really what I count as a love triangle, though. You always know he's going to end up with Anna xD I can only consider it a love triangle when you don't know who they're going to end up with. AND YES, I DID LOVE IT.

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  4. Megan: No, I totally get what you're saying. I agree with that, I just haven't found very many of those books. Or maybe I have and I just didn't consider it a good one :P

    Lol. I was okay with Gale, I liked Peeta, and I hated Katniss xD But if she had ended up with Gale, I would have been like . . . Whut? O_o Screw you, Collins.

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  5. So far they haven't annoyed me too much. But I totally agree with you that they are becoming way too overdone. I actually think it is more common to have one in a novel that has a romantic element than not. I can think of a couple of times that they were pretty well done, but honestly when I think back to my favorite books, none of them involved a triangle.

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  6. Yeah, I totally understand. I prefer not to have a love triangle. The only time I like a love triangle is when there is some kind of growth in the person, to where they learn and understand that one type of person isn't good for them. Like, what they thought they wanted was not what was best for them. I don't find many of those though.

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  7. Zoey--

    I actually kind of liked Katniss. I think it was very brave of her to take Prim's place, but I thought it was wrong of her to use Peeta as a source of survival.

    And I totally predicted Peeta and Katniss falling in love for REAL. Totally called that one, bud-day. :)

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  8. AGREED. And badly-written love triangles just gag me. It never happens in real life anyway (not to many teenagers at least).

    New follower :).

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  9. '''Yeah, I totally understand. I prefer not to have a love triangle. The only time I like a love triangle is when there is some kind of growth in the person, to where they learn and understand that one type of person isn't good for them. Like, what they thought they wanted was not what was best for them. I don't find many of those though''''

    same here

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  10. You should read How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr. Best handled "love triangle" I've ever seen. Although by your definition, it's not even a love triangle, because you know who she's going to end up with. But it's only a really small part of the plot and there's NO DRAMA involved in it, which made me go SQUEEEEEEE.

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  11. I agree with you! I'm sick of love triangles & lately I've been skipping a book when I'll read that there's a love triangle in it. Also, a while ago, I was thinking the same thing: Why there isn't a guy with 2 girls? ;) So, I hear ya...

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  12. ugh... love triangles are bad! You start loving this couple and then BOOM! Some random dude or chick comes in and screws the mojo up!
    Take the House of Night series, for example. When she cheats on Erik because of that one porfessor dude? I forget his name... then Erik and Stark. Was so in love with the Zoey/Erik couple and then the authors ruined it by making Erik a dush and making her be with stark.
    i dont like reading them, and I dont like writing them.
    P.s: pardon my spelling and capitalization errors.

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